We touched base with some of the cast members from Strut, our show about the first all-trans modeling agency premiering Sept. 20 at 9/8c, to ask them about what life is like being transgender in a society where LGBT rights have come a long way but still have so far to go. Below, the crew shares dating tips for trans people.
"Only disclose your gender identity if you are interested. Far too often people are more curious about your identity than they are getting to know the person inside. Make sure they're asking the right questions. They should be asking about your interests, hobbies, family, and friends. If they are asking you about surgeries or your genitals, they are only interested in you sexually, RUN! Be sure you're asking the right questions. Do they know any trans people? Have they ever dated a trans person before? I don't ever want to be a gender professor so I make sure my men are at least somewhat informed about what they're obviously attracted to."
"Figure out who you are before dating. If you know who you are you will also know what you will and won't accept in a relationship. This means learn your body, learn your boundaries. There is a journey of self that happens without validation of others. Avoid people who only want to be with you as a fetish. If you're just looking to hook up with someone it doesn't matter, but if your looking to actually date, watch for those tell tale signs. There is rarely ever a relationship brewing from those situations. When you're comfortable disclosing your trans status do so. Every situation is different. Just feel comfortable and safe as you do."
"Make sure to let them know early on, but be sure to scout out how they feel about lgbt anything before continuing any dating, tell them in a public area as well quietly."
"Never meet privately on the first second or third date. In between meeting and first date you should disclose that you are transgender. Text or email photos of whom ever you are dating including some conversation you have had with the person to someone you trust."
"It's not really much different from anyone else. Be yourself, be honest and sincere. Remember that everyone is not for everybody, so rejection is ok."