When it comes to dating, there's no shortage of rules. Don't be too eager. Play hard to get and give chase. Never, ever message him first. Forget everything you know--or have been told--about dating. The only rule is that there are no rules. Dating apps like Bumble are encouraging women to make the first move--and we love it! Here are six reasons why you should message him first.
Times Are Different
Dating rules were invented back in the day. You know, when people took a horse and buggy to dates? Romance has and is steadily changing and there's no need to hide behind antiquated gender roles like the damsel in distress.
Confident Women Are Sexy
There's nothing more sexy than a confident woman who knows what she wants--and gets it. Instead of shying away and waiting for that text notification, why not make that first move? Bonus points for men who admire a go-getter woman.
Life Is Short
There are thousands of love songs and Instagram quotes about ceasing the day for a reason. Life is short. Don't wait for forever to find true love. Plus, you ain't getting any younger.
Fall Back, Flakes
Online daters are notorious for being flakes. Cut to the chase. Message him first and set up a date within a week of matching. The longer you wait, the easier it is to fizzle out.
YOU Direct The Conversation
When you make the first move, you direct the conversation. Ask questions that matter to you about interests, hobbies and more PG-13 stuff. Wink. Wink.
You can't always control what you catch in your dating net and there are plenty of men masquerading as someone they're not. It's best to get to know a guy for who he really is, versus who he claims as soon as possible.