8 Mom-Shaming Comments That Need To Be Retired Forever
It's time to put an end to all the judgment.
Have you ever been told you shouldn't breastfeed in public? Or have strangers question why you dared to go out and leave your kids at home?
Congratulations - you've just been mom-shamed! Here are 8 of the most offensive, judgmental comments all mothers have heard at some point or another; just try not to smash your keyboard while you're reading.
1. 'Breast is best.'
The whole world is well aware of the benefits of breast feeding - we don't need a reminder. If you see a woman buying formula, don't be like the jerk in this story, who mom-shamed a mother in Target about not breastfeeding; just mind your own business and keep it moving. How other mothers feed their children is none of your concern.
2.'Where's the baby?'
This may seem like an innocent question, but oftentimes it's used as a way to remind mothers that, even when they've chosen to go out, they should really be at home with their children. Chrissy Teigen doesn't stand for that nonsense, and neither should you.
3. 'Are you really wearing that?'
Just in case you didn't get the memo: once you have children, your wardrobe should be limited to khakis and cardigans. No exceptions! Screw that, though: Kim Kardashian shuts down mom-shamers beautifully who criticize her for continuing to dress sexy after giving birth. The next time someone gives you crap for dressing the way you want to, take a page out of her book and give 'em hell.
4. 'You sure you don't want to do that somewhere else?'
Moms who breastfeed in public are often met with condescending "suggestions" about better places to feed their child. Newsflash: if glimpses of a bare breast being used for their natural purpose upsets you so much, you're free to look away.
5. 'I could never let my kids wear/do/watch that.'
Ok? Ask me if I care. No matter what decision moms make about anything, there will always be those who criticize. The best response? Raise your kids the way you want, and if that means you let your boys paint their nails or let your daughter ride on the back of your motorcycle, then go for it. Haters gonna hate.
6. 'Maybe you should think about going back to work.'
This one is usually said to stay-at-home moms, because so many people love to act like all stay-at-home moms do all day is watch TV and eat bonbons. (Always with the bon-ons! Who even eats those, anyway?) Raising children is a full-time job, and though it may not come with a pay check, it's definitely just as important as any other job, so let's all stop being a condescending jerk about it, already.
7. 'Don't you miss your kids?'
This is usually uttered to working moms. Isn't it funny how, whether you're a stay-at-home mom or you work out of the home, you still can't win? (And by funny, I totally mean "sad" and "messed up.")
8. 'Should you really be drinking?'
Breastfeeding mothers can drink alcohol (not with a baby currently on their breast, but I'm sure they know that). Raising children is stressful enough - women don't need to be judged for attempting to de-stress every now and then, so if you see a mom having a drink, the only thing that should come out of your mouth is, "Would you like another?"