Oprah and Shonda Rhimes Discuss Their Aversion To Marriage
“You’re supposed to want it, and if you don’t want it, what’s wrong with you?”
Despite what most of society and your well intentioned mother (who just wants you to be happy, sweetie) tells you, marriage is a choice and not something required to be a functional and healthy member of society. With that in mind, it's nice when HBICs like Oprah and Shonda Rhimes validate all the single ladies who ain't lookin' for no man.
In an interview on Oprah's OWN network, the two women discussed the pressures placed on young women who decide that marriage isn't for them, and their own reluctance to ever get married.
"...If you’re a woman in your 30s or 40s, that’s a big deal. Everybody’s asking you all the time if it’s going to happen … There’s a huge amount of pressure," said Rhimes. “It’s a lot like the desire to want to have children in our society. You’re supposed to want it, and if you don’t want it, what’s wrong with you?"
"I never played bride. I was never interested. I don’t know what it is; I never wanted to get married. I love having boyfriends. I love dating. I do not want a husband in my house," she concluded emphatically.
Big O, historically shy on the subject, ultimately agreed: “I don’t know if I’ve ever said this publicly, but I really wanted to be wanted to be married to,” Oprah says. “I wanted Stedman to want to marry me. The moment he asked me to marry him I was, like… ‘Now I actually have to get married?'”
Hell yeah to all the women making it out in the world who don't need or want a ring on their fingers!
Check a clip of the interview, below!