We all know the phrase – he/she is not my “type.” Having a “type” of person you prefer to date is a pretty common idea and widely accepted. Of course, it can be helpful on a basic level to weed out the sort of person you are truly incompatible with, but it can also have many down sides. When looking for someone to date, or even marry, it’s best to have an open mind because you really never know what Mr. or Miss Right might look like. Here are some of the reasons you should date someone who isn’t your “type”:
1. Types can be limiting
It seems obvious but it needs to be said. If you are hunting for a very specific set of traits in a significant other, then you’re eliminating so many possibilities from your dating pool. Unless your type is very general and you are willing to bend a little, it’s very limiting to stick to it.
2. So you don’t miss out on the perfect person
The perfect person for you, the one that you could spend the rest of your life with, might not match up to all of your criteria. In fact, they might not match any of them. Superficial traits such as height or music preferences or hair color don’t matter much in the long run. Compatibility is what counts.
3. Maybe your “type” really isn’t working
If you keep winding up dating the same kind of person and it keeps falling apart, that’s a pretty clear sign that you should be looking outside of your comfort zone. Try dating someone the total opposite of your last few love interests and see where it goes.
4. Differences in a couple can be the best parts
So many established couples in happy relationships will tell you that the differences in their personalities are what makes their relationship work. Often, a “type” is someone that you think complements you perfectly…by being just like you. That’s not usually a recipe for success as we all know, sometimes, people just like us are the ones we have the most trouble getting along with!
5. To learn a new perspective
Sometimes, having a type means you're excluding people of other cultures or religious backgrounds. This is a huge mistake, as it leaves out so many people you might learn a lot from. You may even discover you prefer their way of life to your own. Sticking to a type could cause you to miss out on a brand-new perspective.
6. Because opposites attract
There's a reason that old saying has been around since the dawn of dating. It can be very true! When you look outside your type and date someone totally the opposite, you might discover it to be your most compatible match of all.
7. Having a type is a little judgmental
If you’re only looking for one type of person and prizing certain characteristics over others, you’re pretty much judging those characteristics as superior and discounting anyone who doesn't possess them. Be open-minded. You really never know unless you try and if you eliminate 95% of the dating pool before you even begin, it doesn't exactly set you up for success.