Oh baby, give me one more chance… You’ve broken up. Maybe you let him go or maybe he sent you a breakup Post-It note. You’re single and instead of being ready to mingle, you want him back. Google “How to get him back” and you get 1,210,000,000 results that include everything from love spells to barely-legal stalking. Here’s the best way to get another go-around without looking like a desperate psycho (unless that’s your thing).
Step 1: Set a Clear Intention
The first step is to set a clear intention. Do you really want him back? Really? Make sure you want a reconciliation and aren’t just missing a warm body on those cold nights. Give it some time.
Step 2: Be Patient
Now that you know you want him back, be [prepared: the process may be quick (think Chris Brown and Rihanna) or loooong (Think Carrie and Mr. Big). Take a deep breath and be patient.
Step 3: To Ask or Not to Ask?
If YOU dumped him, then it’s totally fine to have a mature conversation about making up. If HE kicked you to the curb, then STOP. You are not going to beg him to take you back. No! Instead, the best step is to get HIM to ask you to come back.
Step 4: Make Him Want You
Make him want you. How? By living a fabulous and awesome life. Get rid of the sweatpants and greasy take-out food. Stop posting emo, Drake lyrics on Instagram. Go out with your friends. Take a cooking class. Try that bikram yoga you’ve been wanting to for so long. Go on a date. There’s nothing sexier than a woman who’s living her best life.
Step 5: Set the (Thirst) Trap
Now that you’re fabulous, let him know but without letting him know. Take a page from Rihanna and post your sexy adventures all over social media. Take selfies and live tweet about how great things are. If you have some babelicious guys in your life, make sure to tag them. Hint hint.
Step 6: Fake It ‘Til You Make It
What happens if you don’t feel like having fun yet? You’re sad, down and look like a used up Kleenex. So what? Fake it until you make it. Soon enough, he’ll casually check in by text or “liking” your Instagram pic. When he does, play it cool. Oh you were checking for me?
And if he doesn't, it's onto the next one.