Preachers in Love: Jay Haizlip Puts His Family Before His Ministry
Read our Q&A with Pastor Jay Haizlip on love, marriage and family below. Plus, watch him explain how he and Christy have maintained a healthy relationship after 28 years of marriage!
What are the most important parts of a good marriage?
When it comes to marriage and romance, the foundation is love. Within that, there are things like trust and commitment which are huge factors. If you can’t trust the person you’re with, you have no foundation to build a healthy relationship on. If somebody is not committed, or if you want something more than another person, you’re going to be frustrated and unfulfilled. It’s never going to work. So, Those are the three most important ingredients: pure love, trust, and commitment.
What do you love the most about Christy?
Christy is my best friend. I can completely trust her. She knows me better than anybody else in this world. The only person who knows me better is God himself. For her to know everything about me and still love me the way she loves me, that’s the best thing in the world: knowing that you’re loved unconditionally, even if you’re not perfect.
How do you keep a good relationship alive?
When you’ve got a woman like Christy, it’s not hard to keep the fire and passion alive! In seriousness, a healthy relationship requires work. The honeymoon period doesn’t last forever, and when it’s over, you get to work. There are times when you feel the passion and overwhelming emotion, because hopefully, you keep falling over and over again throughout your marriage. But, you don’t always wake up with this burning fire inside of you, and that’s why love is a commitment.
I love Christy, but we have to work on our marriage every day. Some of the things I did to get her, I still do to keep her. My advice is: continue to date your wife! On my calendar you’ll see times where no one is allowed to invade my time, because it's date time. One thing I make sure of, is that I put my family before my ministry. That’s not always easy. But I'm very intentional about maintaining my marriage. We’ve been married for 28 years.