Greg Behrendt is no stranger to crazy love. The co-author of He's Just Not That Into You has been advising people on calming the F down for over a decade. Naturally, he is consulting producer of Oxygen's My Crazy Love, where people do outrageous, misguided things (faking deafness, pretending to move to L.A., hiding in their love interest's closet, etc) to nab the love of their lives!
Now you can get his latest co-authored book, It's Just a F***ing Date exclusively on Oxygen for just $5.99. Read our interview with Greg all about the show, about his books, and about his own crazy love stories (yes, he's made mistakes, too!), then scroll down for this exclusive offer!
So what got you interested in people who went crazy over love? It’s clearly something that you’ve been interested in a long time.
Well, to be honest, I didn’t have a genuine interest in it. I had a knack for it. When I was in high school and college, people – namely girls – would feel comfortable talking to me about their relationships…and I like talking to girls! When I moved to L.A., I lived in a house full of female comedians (Margaret Cho, Janeane Garofalo). Then I got a job on Sex In the City, so, again, I made a bunch of female friendships.
I always wondered why people would stay in relationships when they were treated badly. I would always say, hey, I like you, but you’re really being an idiot! Of course, it’s a lot easier said than done.
Do you take your own advice?
No, I don’t take my own advice. Or at least, I didn’t. All of my information comes from having made those same mistakes. I think guys will make the same mistakes, but only a couple of times in his life. Sometimes you have women who are almost serial about it. They go out of their way to make the wrong decision.
Have you ever done anything crazy for love?
Yes, I pretended to be British once to try to kiss a member of the girl group The Pandoras. It failed. She did not kiss me. But, I did kiss another member of the group that night. I’m not a great liar though, and the lie was short term. It’s not like I played deaf for three months. My accent was decent, but if you were from England you’d probably notice that I was switching provinces a lot.
My Crazy Love kind of takes things to another level. How do rational people go over the edge like that?
They’re rational now, in hindsight. I directed a lot of the interviews, and it was important that the subjects be likable, not crazy. People want to know you can be healed. All these things are past tense.
What kinds of stories do you look for when you cast My Crazy Love?
We needed the person to be a good storyteller, and we couldn’t have it be too crazy. We needed something lighter: not crazy insane, but crazy bizarre -- and a little bit cute. We’re trying to make it a romantic comedy. Plus, you want to find the stories that you can turn into television.
Tell me about your new book It’s Just a F***ing Date.
It’s about how to enjoy dating people. Most people find themselves unhappy quickly when they’re dating, but it’s about enjoying it and taking the time. You only get the first part of a relationship once.
Could people on My Crazy Love have benefitted from your advice in It’s Just a F***ing Date?
A lot of times, the girls from My Crazy Love would come to the set and we would talk about relationships. They could 100% benefit from the information in my book.