6 Reasons Why You Should Message Him First

Forget the rules!

By Sowmya Krishnamurthy

When it comes to dating, there's no shortage of rules. Don't be too eager. Play hard to get and give chase. Never, ever message him first. Forget everything you know--or have been told--about dating. The only rule is that there are no rules. Dating apps like Bumble are encouraging women to make the first move--and we love it! Here are six reasons why you should message him first.

Times Are Different

Dating rules were invented back in the day. You know, when people took a horse and buggy to dates? Romance has and is steadily changing and there's no need to hide behind antiquated gender roles like the damsel in distress. 

Confident Women Are Sexy

There's nothing more sexy than a confident woman who knows what she wants--and gets it. Instead of shying away and waiting for that text notification, why not make that first move? Bonus points for men who admire a go-getter woman.

Life Is Short

There are thousands of love songs and Instagram quotes about ceasing the day for a reason. Life is shortDon't wait for forever to find true love. Plus, you ain't getting any younger.

Fall Back, Flakes

Online daters are notorious for being flakes. Cut to the chase. Message him first and set up a date within a week of matching. The longer you wait, the easier it is to fizzle out.

YOU Direct The Conversation

When you make the first move, you direct the conversation. Ask questions that matter to you about interests, hobbies and more PG-13 stuff. Wink. Wink.

Catfish-Free Zone

You can't always control what you catch in your dating net and there are plenty of men masquerading as someone they're not. It's best to get to know a guy for who he really is, versus who he claims as soon as possible.

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