Ciara and Russell Wilson had a notoriously sexless relationship until their wedding night. They talked about it openly, and once the deed was done, they bragged about it openly. It’s easy—and fun!—to tease people who are both engaged and not virgins for abstaining from sex, but they’ve both made a pretty convincing argument for it. Plus, they have no regrets. ET Online reports that in a new interview with Cosmopolitan South Africa, Ciara is asked yet again about remaining chaste with the man she loves for so very, very long. It was apparently worth the wait.
Ciara says, “I really believe that when you focus on a friendship, you have the opportunity to build a strong foundation for a relationship—and once you know you're really great friends and you're what we call 'equally yoked,' where you share the same values or the same outlook on life, it kind of sets the tone," adding, "Knowing that you'll always have the friendship and that you can always go back to it is very important, and very powerful."
Though Wilson has said in the past that it was his idea to hold off on sex, Ciara essentially implies it was her desire and he went along with it, saying, "I have to give credit to my husband for sharing those views. It's awesome how it all worked out."
Who cares whose idea it was not to boink? The boinks have been boinked and everyone is chill.
Ciara also has some very gendered views about how men and women relate to sex that made me a little sad, but I’m sure a lot of people agree with her, so here they are:
"Here's how it works: We women think with our hearts and with our minds. When we see a guy, we envision what he's like and whether this could be something special. Guys see us from an exterior point of view—that's something I learned along the way as a woman."
Hmm, who could she be referring to? Do you think Future only saw her for her exterior and that’s where it all went wrong? She says of her ex-fiancé that the public nature of their breakup now seems like a positive thing, stating, "I think that people can learn from your experiences when they happen in front of the world. You never know what someone else is going through, and you never know how sharing your situation might help them with theirs."
It wasn’t always exactly in Ciara’s control, but if seeing all her dirty laundry aired in front of everyone had some kind of happy resolution that’s awesome.
This last piece of Ciara advice I do happen to agree with, and it’s something both men and women should take to heart (I do believe there are some men out there who aren’t sex-crazed maniacs, thanks). She says, “You shouldn't feel like you have to give your body away to get someone to like you."